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Comment on “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly)” #4 by - Mustard Seeds

- Mustard Seeds — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:51:59 +0000

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Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) #3 by Steve Witt

Steve Witt — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 07:53:05 +0000

Insomnia has paid off tonight. Just got caught up on Steve Childer’s series on “Mistakes”. My “Journaling” for the weekend is done. Now to just pause and let it sink in. Thanks for taking the time to pass along some wisdom.

Comment on Stout Monk Society – Pt 1 by Steve Witt

Steve Witt — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:51:34 +0000

When you end up out in the “wilds” like me, it does feel like you’re (almost) totally disconnected from others. I think you’re on to something here!

Comment on The perfect blog… by Andrew J. Bauman

Andrew J. Bauman — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 19:02:12 +0000

Thank you Jim for your words, wisdom and imperfection.

Comment on “I can’t fix this and I don’t have the energy to try” by Roger Brittingham

Roger Brittingham — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 05:02:50 +0000

Wisdom on that subject no, but I know how you feel. After a full day of ministering to different personalities, you just want a safe place where all is right. We long for our wives to be on the same chapter, page and verse that we are channeling, but it seems that this is not the way it works.

We must remember however that God has orchastrated our past, present, and future and if we are truly following him, he knows and understands our needs even if our best friend in our wife doesn’t.

I have been preaching that you cannot have perfect peace unless we wait on God for the large and small things in life. Now we are selling our house and my wife wants to know every aspect of the plan for the next 10 moves, however I’m not wise enough to tell her, I’m waiting on God. She is troubled by this. She sees things differently.

As men of God, we must always choose the cross first and family may or maynot understand that they must be second. Wives hate this in their heart of hearts, but this must be. We however must keep our hearts and minds and lives pure so that we are not chasing other motives and missing out on our families lives. Only the footsteps of Jesus can be more important. One assignment at a time with his leading.

Comment on “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly)” #4 by John Donald Jordan

John Donald Jordan — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:31:58 +0000

Steve I have been listening to you a long time but had never seen you until now. I have been a full time pastor for 25 years in N.C., Florida and Wyoming and the last 25 years a prison caplain, a total of 50 years been married to the sme girl 51 years and I look a lot like you, good looking, handsome unlike Steve Childers I was just down with him in Orlando some time ago for the church planters conference. I have pastored 13 churches several of them I planted, am now serving an ARP church in Pinehurst and chaplain and have a seminary extension program at Scotland Correctional the largest prison in N.C.with 527 inmates who have been enrolled in seminary studying the Bible in prison. Don Jordan

Comment on “I can’t fix this and I don’t have the energy to try” by Rob

Rob — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 02:57:30 +0000

Zach, Thank you for the warning that the rest of us must heed. When I was a student at the Moody Bible Institute one of my professors Dr. Dwight Perry said that Satan sometimes can’t attack you professionally so he then goes after your family. If he can take your family down then he has taken you down too. I’ve been married almost 23 years and I can tell you that there are times when I am in the groove relationship wise and then there are times I am not. It’s just something you got to get through. I agree with you that sometimes we give a lot out and we don’t have enough attention for our families when we get home. To be honest at times I am not sure what to do about it. Anybody else got some wisdom?

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) – #1 by Tobias Ennulat

Tobias Ennulat — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 18:46:25 +0000

Hi Steve,
thank you for your help by sharing about the main mistakes in ministry.
At one point you write quoting the mentioned book:(Success) “It is primarily qualitative not merely quantitative. Its emphasis is more on things like faithfulness, humility, love and relationships than on measurable, objective accomplishments and achievements in the ministry.”
I find that that is exactly the problem in pastoral ministry. It is the hard part to stay faithful, to (still) love, stay vulnerable and be open minded with a sense of humor in relationships over the years.
Tobias from Germany

Comment on “I can’t fix this and I don’t have the energy to try” by Zach

Zach — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 03:03:41 +0000

Hi Mike.

Thanks for your honest and vulnerable response.

We all need to know we aren’t the only ones who struggle and don’t have it all together.

Just prayed for you with great thankfulness for you.
Zach

Comment on “I can’t fix this and I don’t have the energy to try” by Mike Albin

Mike Albin — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:49:10 +0000

I appreciate your story, as I live in the same world. My wife and I have been doing Worship ministry for over 10 years now. At first we were in it together, but now we’re so far apart that sometimes I can’t see where we started. I love her dearly, but find it difficult to even think about persuing her, as I once did. We have gone for some good counseling for a few years, but that didn’t fix it. I’ve tried, but I can’t fix it either.

About 6 years ago I was really frustrated and I remember spending an enormous amout of time crying out to God, “Please help me with this, please fix this marriage ’cause I don’t know waht to do anymore!!!” After a few weeks of this and feeling really stressed, I finally got an answer for God. I knew it was God ’cause I wouldn’t have said it to myself.
God told me, “I never promised you that I’d fix your marriage, I just told you that I’d be there with you through it”.

Man did that piss me off!!! I spent more time yelling at God and arguing with Him, and then in a shorter space of time, He spoke again (again I knew it was Him, ’cause I wouldn’t have said it) He said, “My grace is sufficient”. That also didn’t make me happy, until it sunk in.

He keeps reminding me of that. Our marriage isn’t that much better, we have our good moments, and I’m still trying to fix things (mostly unsuccessfully) and God keeps showering me with grace. I soooo need it!

Mike

Comment on Mountain Confessions… by brucevanderkolk

brucevanderkolk — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:06:51 +0000

pete

thanks for sharing your heart and mind. i too am encouraged by you writing to get away. as a matter of fact… i think i will find snow and a fire and quit time.

i am trying to get unstuck and it scares me to quit a perfectly good pastorate and take a leap into Jesus arms. prayer and time with the Lord is essential.

my problem is i don’t have enough time to walk with others on their journey with the Lord.
i too need to think about my core values and bedrock beliefs. i want to rediscover my passion for Kingdom work.

bruce

Comment on Stout Monk Society – Pt 1 by brucevanderkolk

brucevanderkolk — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:50:26 +0000

Tom

i would be interested. i have served as a senior pastor for 9 years and have worked as a specialized interim for 8 years. I am also a natural church development coach and a coach pastors and leaders.

interim ministry work is all about being a stout monks!

bruce

Comment on Shutting the Doors for Good by Rob

Rob — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:40:22 +0000

Brother Pete,
Remind Dirk, that all of the local churches in the Bible have died, but the church of Jesus Christ goes on. It sounds to me like this man worked as hard as he could, did all that he could. He should feel no shame whatsoever. May God be with his soul during this time. May God also be with you as you minister to this precious brother and friend. Dirk might find out when he gets to Heaven someday that this was the Lord’s plan and He used Dirk to be a blessing to those saints as they were closing the doors.

Comment on “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) #2” by Glenn Jakes

Glenn Jakes — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 13:38:03 +0000

I am so grateful for someone like Steve Childers who is willing to say the “unspiritual” things. And it appears to me that he is wise and has probably forgotten more than I’ll ever know. However, I was hoping for some practical, hands-on suggestions to accompany identification of the problem. I get the principles of viewing the problem differently and working less, but what is the practical implications when I go into my study today? Does anyone have any ideas for actually how these principles work out day-to-day?

When I go in today, there will be piles of stuff on my desk, calls coming in rapid-fire, a full email box, a long prayer list to send up, sheep dropping by to see me, an elder and ministry leader to meet with, and a Bible study left to prepare for tonight. This is my reality. Help.

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) #3 by Pooped Pastors » Blog Archive » “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly)” #4

Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:42:09 +0000

[...] • Mistake #1 (these are in no intentional order) called, “Failing to Understand the Importance of How I Define Ministry Success.” • Mistake #2 called, Managing My Time and Not Managing My Life • Mistake #3: Not Understanding the Difference Between my Goals and Desires. [...]

Comment on “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) #2” by Pooped Pastors » Blog Archive » “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly)” #4

Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:36:36 +0000

[...] to Understand the Importance of How I Define Ministry Success.” • Mistake #2 called, Managing My Time and Not Managing My Life • Mistake #3: Not Understanding the Difference Between my Goals and [...]

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) – #1 by Pooped Pastors » Blog Archive » “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly)” #4

Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:36:14 +0000

[...] Mistake #1 (these are in no intentional order) called, “Failing to Understand the Importance of How I Define Ministry Success.” • Mistake #2 called, Managing My Time and Not Managing My Life • Mistake #3: Not Understanding [...]

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by Pooped Pastors » Blog Archive » “My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly)” #4

Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:35:15 +0000

[...] “Ladies First” in which veteran church planter wife, Shari Thomas, addressed the tough topic, What I Wish I Had Known About Church Planting from the perspective of the church planter’s/pastor’s spouse. We then took a look [...]

Comment on Mountain Confessions… by Jim Crooks

Jim Crooks — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 12:07:21 +0000

Thanks for allowing me to walk with you. Starting this ministry “thing” at 17 was for me a call that I followed with a lot of people clapping but no one leading. I was helping a pastor who needed more help that I, yet was willing to let me hang around him in this church starting stuff. I was enthralled and exhausted all the time…it became my new normal. I got used to the whirlwind and even was nice enough to bring a wife and three kids along with me. Then I woke up and discovered that I wished I had men like you to journey with who were honest about their need for rest and practical enough to say you have to get the “spade work” done if you want to get personal with your sermons especially if you have to wade through appointments, demands, staff, visitation needs, and God forbid if your children are singing, playing soccer, or if you wife simply needs you for the evening or a weekend. I find fellowship in your words. It takes guts to be honest but it allows you to fly better!

Comment on Surviving Pastorial Ministry – Part 3 – Prayer in Survival Mode – Session 3 by John W. Carlton

John W. Carlton — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 01:51:29 +0000

Thanks for your teaching. I do not always agree with you. I don’t always agree with my wife either, but she has excellent taste. I am learning a lot from your “Among Friends” series.

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by Mistake #4: Not Understanding the Difference Between Pursuing the Grace of God or the God of Grace « Global Church Advancement (GCA)

Thu, 04 Feb 2010 22:25:54 +0000

Comment on Stout Monk Society – Pt 1 by David Phillips

David Phillips — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 16:27:34 +0000

Tom,

I do. I assess church planters in Maryland/Delaware and try to do some coaching along with pastoring. I’m an entrepreneurial type. People also call me an intellectual. I need the connection with others that I don’t have in Delaware.

I would love to be a part of something like this.

Comment on The Confessions of a Pooped Pastor – Steve Brown by Jill Bieber

Jill Bieber — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 14:11:02 +0000

I love listening to you Steve ! You make me laugh

Comment on The Confessions of a Pooped Pastor – Steve Brown by Jill Bieber

Jill Bieber — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:07:03 +0000

You Are Awesome Steve, I love listening to you !

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) – #1 by My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry–That I Can Share Publicly: Mistake # 3 « Global Church Advancement (GCA)

Sun, 24 Jan 2010 02:08:47 +0000

[...] #1 (these are in no intentional order) called, “Failing to Understand the Importance of How I Define Ministry Success.” Last time we [...]

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry–That I Can Share Publicly: Mistake # 3 « Global Church Advancement (GCA)

Wed, 20 Jan 2010 13:14:06 +0000

[...] First” in which veteran church planter wife, Shari Thomas, addressed the tough topic, “What I Wish I Had Known About Church Planting” from the perspective of the church planter’s/pastor’s spouse. We then took a look [...]

Comment on Shutting the Doors for Good by Pete Alwinson

Pete Alwinson — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 19:40:39 +0000

Doug:

I think you did what should have been done in your situation…now…what did you do after you made that transition? Thanks for your servant leadership and warmth!

Comment on My First Time by Matthew Downs

Matthew Downs — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:13:43 +0000

What a powerful account of God using his servant through the eyes of one who loves him so dearly!!!

This is amazing, thank you for sharing Kelly. Thank you Zach for answering the call….

love you both…

Comment on Shutting the Doors for Good by Doug Rogers

Doug Rogers — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 02:49:59 +0000

Your blog reminded me of the church I pastored in Philly for 8 years. The people called me, because their neighborhood had changed. In 80 years it went from a German-American neighborhood to a Latino/black neighborhood, and because of my urban missionary background they (and I) thought we could be successful there.
We invited Bart Campolo’s KingdomWorks kids in to run summer programs 4 years in a row, we had outdoor Christian concerts, an emergency food cupboard, urban basketball program… you name it we tried it, but the church was slow to embrace the community, very resistant to change, and a number of our older members were being called to glory.
By the beginning of my 8th year, I sat down with the church board chair and we talked about the future. I didn’t want to be the last one out to turn off the lights, and I didn’t want to leave one more abandoned building in an urban community. Our meeting caused us to realize that the only answer was to find a church who needed a church home and reflected the community around our church.
The Lord provided a contact with an urban pastor with the right congregation. The last 2 Sunday’s: 1) A homecoming celebration; 2) A worship service to turn the building over to the new church to the glory of God. I worked myself out of a job, but it’s the best thing I ever did!

Comment on My First Time by aunt julie

aunt julie — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:35:35 +0000

so beautiful. so proud of you. so thankful you have eachother.so envious of your spiritual relationship. you are such a blessing. so……

Comment on My First Time by Cathy Maner

Cathy Maner — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:56:15 +0000

I love the honesty and realness of these articles. Thank you for reminding us that it’s all about Grace and that God does show up. You are a beautiful family, too.

Comment on My First Time by Donna Lehman

Donna Lehman — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:14:13 +0000

Zach and Kelly, I am amazed at how God is using you! I love reading your words, and I am always brought to tears.We love you and are praying for you! Donna

Comment on My First Time by Robin

Robin — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:50:44 +0000

Zach and Kelly,
I love hearing your thoughts and experiences.
You words bless me and lots of others.
May peace and joy be yours today!

Comment on My First Time by Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:12:16 +0000

Kelly, I, too, laughed out loud and cried as I read your personal thoughts. I once believed that going through life without the bumps was a blessing. I was wrong. God has showed me that it is the tough times that draw us to the cross where we experience His love and forgiveness. Chuck Green once told me when you go through those times think about your blessings. You are one of my blessings and I am so thankful for you. I am encouraged by you and Zach and your faith in God. I love you.

Comment on My First Time by sarah stoner

sarah stoner — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 12:15:09 +0000

what a wonderful, beautiful reading kelly. i am sorry we were not in town to hear zach’s sermon. we thank the Lord for your faithfulness, love and realness. we love you 2 or better said, you 5.

Comment on My First Time by Bruce and Whitney

Bruce and Whitney — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:17:35 +0000

We read and we laughed and we teared up…AND we thanked Jesus that the transparency of your journey, in love for Him and in love for each other, is something that we have the privilege of witnessing and gaining strength from. (and an occasional nervous stomach) Beautiful, filled with truth, love and you!

Comment on My First Time by Joe Creech

Joe Creech — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:28:28 +0000

Kelly,
Thanks for letting Zach share this…. loved it! And love you both!

Comment on My First Time by Lindsay

Lindsay — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:02:46 +0000

Beautiful Kelly! I was crying and then laughing at the last sentence. I remember the drama of Zach when he would get an upset stomach when he was little. Micki said it would be a big production before he “threw up”, lol, poor thing I can’t imagine the “feelings” before your first sermon. Thanks for sharing! I will be praying for y’all along this journey, it is not easy, but wow, God is going to affect so many people through the two of you, stay strong. I still remember when Benny was a youth minister and we went through so much hell from the congregation. The person who gave us the most grief and whose “complaints” finally drove us away from the ministry was the organist. And not long after we left, we had heard he had left his wife and two sons for another man, another lifestyle…..wow, you just don’t know the struggles everyone goes through and those are the people who will be the hardest on you, but LOVE them through it and don’t give in to the devils schemes because they will come at you from every direction.

I love you,
Aunt Lindsay

Comment on My First Time by Susan

Susan — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 22:25:36 +0000

(with tears still welling).. Lovely, precious, bound married-love for your husband.. and for our lord .. xoxo Kelly, dearheart.

Comment on The Pastor’s Family by Kathy Armistead

Kathy Armistead — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 15:54:25 +0000

If you think being a pastor is a lonely road, try being a pastor’s spouse. While I’ve met some great people through my church connections, I have also seen the worst of people. At least in our denomination, spouses and families are often just the collateral damage when conflict erupts. I truly love and support my husband, but am more cautious when it comes to loving the church. Even though the chuch often does not recogize it (at least in our denomination), spouses are partners in ministry. And over the years, we have learned to set better boundaries to protect our home life, like not answering the phone during mealtime. Blessings on your ministry. Thanks for all you do.

Comment on He Knows How You Feel by Ginny

Ginny — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 17:47:56 +0000

Zach, I just read your article last night and got the news this morning that my mom’s best friend’s son was found dead in his bed (20 something). Not sure the cause yet but suspicion is not good. I immediately went back to your article and pulled out the passages you referenced. What a stab-in-the-gut it is to deal with such anguish here on earth but then… What a gift to know that God, Jesus, The Holy Spirit and the angels are all up in “our mess” (as Jack stated) and truly understand when no one else can. Jesus knew full well what He faced, and it was b/c of us and what we would face, that He still pushed forward. Thanks for this. (I’m your mama’s friend)

Comment on Summer Silence by Zach

Zach — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 00:53:39 +0000

Hi Kathern.

Thanks for the encouragement! It meant a ton to me.

I would be honored to have you follow what the Spirit lays on my heart.

Have a great new year!

So glad it’s all about grace.

Comment on He Knows How You Feel by Jack

Jack — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 04:15:56 +0000

Zach, thanks brother… very beautiful. I’ve been praying on and off all day for these families, and many more that come to mind. Nice to end the day with the thought of Jesus entering into our mess and doing what we could never do. Thanks for the reminder!

Comment on Summer Silence by Kathern Hindle

Kathern Hindle — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 10:20:14 +0000

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Comment on He Knows How You Feel by auntie

auntie — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 15:05:19 +0000

i love to read your work wacky. what an incredible gift you have of finding comfort with a situation like this.you give people hope with the truth. God loves all of his people and understands even those darkest moments.
your going to be a wonderful pastor one day sweetie.

Comment on Theology – Part 8 – Authority of Scripture by Jason Myers

Jason Myers — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 18:36:44 +0000

Steve,

I thank you for your willingness to have this website and these videos. I have been watching for a few weeks. The Word is all I have to hold me up and, quite frankly, all we need. Hallelujah! Our church is going through a transition time of finding a new pastor and it can be tough. You discover during these times that it is the Word of God that you must cling to. I have not been in ministry too long, but know that His Word can bring you through a whole bunch. Again, thank you for what you do.

Blessings,
Jason

Comment on Teaching a pig to sing by David Coffield

David Coffield — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 20:21:54 +0000

Glad to be reading my uncles work.

Comment on Preaching Christ by admin

admin — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:31:37 +0000

Here you go my brootha…

http://www.GracedAgain.com.

Comment on Preaching Christ by TERRY LONG

TERRY LONG — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 04:50:58 +0000

how do I get on toms email list for the “Graced again” thanks TERRY

Comment on Leading with a Limp – Dan Allender by Dan Allender Interview « Lead With A Limp

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Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) – #1 by My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry–That I Can Share Publicly « Global Church Advancement (GCA)

Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:40:02 +0000

[...] of the church planter’s/pastor’s spouse. Last time we looked at Mistake #1 called, “Failing to Understand the Importance of How I Define Ministry Success.” This time we’ll take a brief look at Mistake #2 (these are in no intentional order) I wish [...]

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Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:32:34 +0000

Comment on Theology – Part 5 – Perseverance by Al

Al — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 01:07:56 +0000

Hey Steve,
Thanks for the great practical advice. I’ve never watched one of your on-line “talks” and not been helped in some way. Keep em coming.

Comment on Emotionally Healthy Spirituality – Pete Scazzero on SBE by CLARE

CLARE — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:23:26 +0000

I am “in the middle of it” (an unhealthy termination process – and my physiological and psychological response has been very unhealthy).

My sister-in-law sent this website link to my wife, who passed it on to me.

“Honesty” was the theme of the audio Steve Brown etc., with Emotionally Healthy Spirituality — and I found myself being attracted to the “laid back” style — and then found myself thinking that the STYLE is not what matters — and can be used as effectively, as any other style, to draw in, and seduce people who are feeling vulnerable — the method matters little, it is the integrity of the process and communication content which matters to those whose vulnerability is excessive (even if only for the time being).

We need to be able to TRUST the lasting integrity of what is being offered for our healing, hope, and recovery to freedom as granted (graced) from God.

Thanks for now.

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by santa torres

santa torres — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 06:50:08 +0000

wow…thank you!

Comment on Heroes/Heretics by Cousin Heather

Cousin Heather — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 11:22:46 +0000

Zach,God’s grace pours out of you. Thank you.

Comment on Heroes/Heretics by Donna Lehman

Donna Lehman — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 22:37:29 +0000

ZACH, You are an awesome man of God. You are teaching us all to think more deeply about the things of God! We love you and are proud of you and your precious family! The Lehman’s

Comment on Heroes/Heretics by Debbie Werk

Debbie Werk — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 15:39:06 +0000

Zach, WOW, very thought provoking. Love your writing. Your honesty is refreshing.

Comment on Heroes/Heretics by Beverly Alexander

Beverly Alexander — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:36:00 +0000

Zach—-Don’t you just love how different and perfect heaven will be! No more arguing, no more theological fights, no more sinning, just the thought of that makes me long for it. And of course being at the feet of Jesus! (thanks for responding to all those post-menopausal 40+ women) You make me think and smile at the same time.

Comment on Heroes/Heretics by Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 00:40:41 +0000

Zach I love your heart. Dad and I are proud of you. Thanks for being so honest.
I love you always, Mom

Comment on Pastoral Points by Zach

Zach — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 15:45:29 +0000

I will gladly be on a committee to enact this! (And I hate committees)

Comment on Heroes/Heretics by auntie

auntie — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 13:27:42 +0000

that was awesome sweetie!

Comment on Heroes/Heretics by Joe Creech

Joe Creech — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:19:19 +0000

Zach, glad we are in this together! Thanks.

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by Pooped Pastors » Blog Archive » My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) – #1

Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:29:58 +0000

[...] First” in which veteran church planter wife Shari Thomas answered the tough question, “What I Wish I Had Known About Church Planting” from the perspective of the church planter’s/pastor’s spouse. This time we’ll take a brief [...]

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) #1 « Global Church Advancement (GCA)

Mon, 12 Oct 2009 06:12:39 +0000

[...] First” in which veteran church planter wife Shari Thomas answered the tough question, “What I Wish I Had Known About Church Planting” from the perspective of the church pastor’s spouse. This time we’ll take a brief look at the [...]

Comment on Pastors & Family – Part 8 – Be Real at Home by jamie kendrew

jamie kendrew — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 18:45:46 +0000

thank you!!!

Comment on Emotionally Healthy Spirituality – Pete Scazzero on SBE by Erik

Erik — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 13:41:09 +0000

Hi June. Here's the statement of faith from Pastor Scazzero's church... New Life Fellowship Statement of Faith

Comment on Emotionally Healthy Spirituality – Pete Scazzero on SBE by June Visser

June Visser — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 20:42:16 +0000

Pastor’s Scazzero’s books have been
highly recommended to me by another reader
and I will buy them for my own personal
use.

However, as the Librarian of our Church
Library I am afraid I must ask Pastor
Scazzero’s theological position i.e., may
I ask for the statement of faith of your
church.

It is the wish of our pastoral team that the
books in our library follow as closely as
possible the article of faith of the A.G.C.

Thank you, blessings, June Visser

Comment on What’s Wrong With Me? by B

Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:42:31 +0000

Having sat in the chair talking about a lengthy time without a call and limping from the last… this reminds me of how often we are left alone when many of our churches especially mine claim a connectivity in their church gov’t. the reality is that we are not connected and those of us who currently have a call fear that we too will not too soon be in the shoes of this pastor. this is why this website is so important!

Comment on Summer Silence by Pennie Keene

Pennie Keene — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 17:05:14 +0000

Zach,
I’m so glad your mom passed this on for me to read. It is truly an honor to serve such a patient and loving God as we do. I’m sorry about your friend but so thankful that he had an impact on so many lives. We miss you! Give our love to Kelly and your beautiful kids.
Love,
Pennie

Comment on Summer Silence by Lynne Whittington

Lynne Whittington — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 01:45:15 +0000

I am sitting in bed with tears streaming down my face. Thank you for sharing.

Comment on Summer Silence by auntie

auntie — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 00:25:17 +0000

zach..my cup runnith over.
love you

Comment on Summer Silence by Grandmommy Anderson

Grandmommy Anderson — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:11:43 +0000

My dearest grandson…we read your article about your visit to Scott. It was so honest and sincere about your visiting a dying friend. I know just how difficult that was for you and we are so very proud of you and love you very much.

Comment on Summer Silence by Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 13:51:52 +0000

Zach Thanks for the encouragement. Scott touched our family many times. His words said it all. I love you.

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by Shari Thomas

Shari Thomas — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:21:13 +0000

Thanks Steve! I at first thought, “he must not know me well if he calls me spiritually mature”, then I remembered truth: “Oh, ya knowing I’m a mess to the point I can talk about it, know I can’t fix it, and be thrilled that Jesus delights in me, is being spiritual.” Okay, I’ll take the compliment.

Comment on Summer Silence by Vicki

Vicki — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 02:22:27 +0000

I’m praying for your ministry this year my friend. Speak what you know and believe– our Father, who knows each heart you speak to will amazingly apply and multiply it. You are a joy to love and know.

Comment on Summer Silence by Joseph Creech

Joseph Creech — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 01:54:16 +0000

LOVE IT. THANKS FOR THE REMINDER. SO GLAD I EXPERIENCED THIS WITH YOU AND EVERYONE ELSE THERE. I PRAY I REMEMBER SCOTT’S WORDS EVERY DAY WHEN I OPEN MY EYES AND EVERY NIGHT BEFORE I SHUT THEM! WHAT A POWERFUL TIME THAT WAS! THANKS TO THE ALEXANDERS FOR LETTING US SHARE IN IT! GLAD YOU PUT THIS IN WORDS AND HOPE IT INSPIRES MANY! LOVE YOU BROTHER!

Comment on Summer Silence by Jan Hart

Jan Hart — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 00:24:15 +0000

Zach
thank-you so much for sharing this, I so wanted to go as well but thought it was just for close friends and fam. but Scott being Scott, he looked at all of us as family, that,s what I loved about him. He was an amazing man of God and had such an impact on my life as many many other’s in fact to many to count. it was a blessing to call him friend
thank-you for posting this
In Him
Jan Hart

Comment on Pastors & Family – Part 7 – Create a Safe Place – Part 2 by Thomas Powell

Thomas Powell — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 19:59:53 +0000

Yes, right on. Our homes, as pastor must look, feel, and be safe. And if the “peace
of God” rest in our homes, there are families
will be safe.

Comment on Summer Silence by beverly Alexander

beverly Alexander — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 13:26:18 +0000

Zach—-This was a beautifully written rendition of what happened that day. It was one of my favorite times. I saw that time as “Heaven” on earth, a peek into eternity with someone so close to being there. Thank you for coming and experiencing it with us. Beverly

Comment on Summer Silence by Joe Creech

Joe Creech — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 02:00:40 +0000

Zach,
I went to my 4th funeral in as many weeks. Your thoughts above helped me move a step toward grieving and processing some of the things that i have avoided since Scott’s celebration. Thank you for putting this story in writing. I loved it when you and Joseph first told me of it, but it ministered to me today! Grace, joe

Comment on Summer Silence by Zach

Zach — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 01:35:41 +0000

You’re welcome, Bill. I wish you could have been at his Homecoming Celebration (we weren’t allowed to call it a funeral). I hope that my funeral will be filled with as much joy.

Comment on Summer Silence by Bill Haynes

Bill Haynes — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 19:50:59 +0000

Zach, thank you for sharing this very personal time with Scott. He was truly a dear Christian brother who did indeed “love Jesus” in front of everyone. I “ran into” Scott in a cafe a few months before his death while visiting in Orlando. He was facing insurmountable odds with his cancer, but during that 15 minute visit, he encouraged me more than you can imagine. I will treasure that unplanned visit for the rest of my life. Soli Deo Gloria!!!

Comment on My Top Ten Mistakes In Ministry (That I Can Share Publicly) by Top 10 Mistakes in Ministry by Steve Childers « littlesanctuary

Top 10 Mistakes in Ministry by Steve Childers « littlesanctuary — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 20:20:57 +0000

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Comment on Fitness and More by Guillermo

Guillermo — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 22:18:45 +0000

I’m 59 and I just started playing indoor soccer. The first night I thought I was going to have a heart attack. But I have a stethoscope next to my bed and I listened to my heart after I got home. It was beating strong but no irregularities.

I used to play softball, basketball and tennis but I started getting fractures in my fingers and I got a rotator cuff injury from the hoops. My doc told me to switch to non-impact sports so I started playing more golf and more cycling. I still crave that “burn” from the intense running, so I’ll see how long I last. I’m really only playing a few minutes at a time.

I’m also supposed to be a type II diabetic but I’ve switched to a plant based diet and my numbers are dropping like a rock. This morning it was 146 glucose level. I don’t take any medication. It’s the only thing that works. TOFU is your friend is what I’ve learned.

Well, I’ll keep you posted on what a 59 year old man can do.

Comment on Pastors & Family – Part 5 – The Perfectability of the Family by pooter

pooter — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 10:11:05 +0000

Wow, you really looked pooped.

Comment on The Sweetest Scam of All Time by Steve

Steve — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 15:16:34 +0000

Hey Doug,
You can use a sweetener called Stevia. It actually has a immune system benefit…..or you can drink it without sugar which is what I like to do.

Steve

Comment on What is your tiredness telling you? by Chris Perona

Chris Perona — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 22:16:18 +0000

Thanks. A great reminder. I find I slip into carrying pastoral burdens and wanting to resolve problems that are beyond me, I get overwhelmed and tired. It is good to stop. It is good to take some extended time of prayer to commit what is on my heart to the Lord. And sometimes it is good to take an extra day off in the week, like Friday and Saturday. I can feel like I’ve had 4 weeks holiday after taking just one extra day off. And the world doesn’t gave in or fall apart : ) I’m going to try to have this Friday and Saturday off this week. It is so simple really. When you are tired, don’t work harder, commit to the Lord and have a proper rest. Thanks again, great reminder

Comment on The Sweetest Scam of All Time by doug sukhia

doug sukhia — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 21:29:28 +0000

So how do I sweeten my coffee?

Comment on Church Politics – Part 14 – Never… Part 9 by Tracey Karcher

Tracey Karcher — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 07:11:26 +0000

Great reminder, thanks! I too have a tendency to be a “Lone Ranger” Christian, even though I now know there is no such thing. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve messed things up and God has put them right. Sometimes not until I have undergone painful discipline! I have been fired twice (secular jobs) for having “too much initiative!!” LOL A little funny, but painful all the same.

Comment on Church Politics – Part 16 – Resignation Letters by pooter

pooter — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 10:38:59 +0000

That’s fantastic!

Thanks for such a quick reply.

Thankfully Pooter is not my real name. Phew!

Comment on The Psychology of a Pooped Pastor – Dan Allender by Dan Allender – The Psychology of a Pooped Pastor « Christ the Truth

Dan Allender – The Psychology of a Pooped Pastor « Christ the Truth — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 20:01:12 +0000

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Comment on Church Politics – Part 16 – Resignation Letters by admin

admin — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:54:52 +0000

Hi pooter (if indeed that is your real name).

We’re just about done making your suggestion a reality. Check back for updated and downloadable videos.

Comment on Church Politics – Part 16 – Resignation Letters by pooter

pooter — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:47:25 +0000

Hi,

Just found your website and am feeling better already. I was just wondering, is it possible to download the video and audio from the site? It’s just that it would be ideal to have them on my ipod so i can listen rather that at the PC.

Thanks for such an encouraging site,

Peter

Comment on Oh, baby, baby, it’s a wild world. by mick

mick — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 04:26:38 +0000

thanks for that tom, thats exactly where i’m at this week. i do a lot of ministry at our local jail, and we also have a substantial ministry to recovering addicts in our community. i’m also the police chaplain, and i happened to be at the police station the other day when the police brought in a pizza box full of dirty needs and drug paraphenalia–from one of our ministry leaders. we’ve had a lot of tragedy in our community lately, and the “compassion fatigue” has been major. i knew this lady was really struggling and had been trying to minister to her, and it has been really hard watching her slide. i’ve only been doing this for a few years, but the hardest thing for me is watching people fall. i know its worth it, because being faithful is ALWAYS worth it, but man am i tired already.

Comment on Cannabis Confession and Construction Contemplation by Zach

Zach — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 14:33:19 +0000

From a hotel in Napa Valley and a little bit tipsy from all the wine tastings…

Jeff – I know I am a real pastor. I’ve never worked so hard in my entire life. This week while on vacation I got a call from a parent whose child ran away.

My comment about not being a “real” pastor was a joke. Because whenever I tell someone what I do, they always ask when I think I will get to be a Senior (aka “real”) Pastor. That drives me nuts!

So glad it’s all about grace.
Zach

PS – Thanks to everyone for reading the blog. Make sure to participate in the forums and tell your youth PASTOR friends

Comment on Cannabis Confession and Construction Contemplation by Jeff Shearier

Jeff Shearier — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 22:03:33 +0000

Zack,
You wrote, “just one more reason I am not a “real” pastor, but only a youth pastor.”

Where did you get the idea that being a youth pastor did not make you a real pastor? What a bunch of Satan filled Horse do-do.

I went to my denomination’s Seminary. But instead of the usual route and graduating with a Master’s in Divinity, I was a “colloquy” student. That means I had extensive church work experience and would graduate as Ordained, but without the M.Div. degree. Does that make me “not a real pastor?”

You are a real pastor, wrestling with how to relate and communicate with teens. Stick with building relationships and sharing God’s grace, through faith in Christ. Eventually they will get the message. Those that do will hold it for life.

Comment on The Pastor’s Family by Linda Stoll

Linda Stoll — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:59:34 +0000

I just discovered your site this week through a friend of a friend of a friend! I’m sharing it with the ministry leaders in my world … and will be eagerly anticipating future reads.

I love your emphasis on the whole person, life balance, family. Even Jesus hiked, went fishing, hung out with friends, got the boat out …

And how ’bout women in ministry? It’s sure been a rough, misunderstood, lonely road to walk … and I know that I’m not the only one …

Comment on Pastors & Family – Part 1 – The Priority of the Family – Part 1 by O. Daniel Osborn

O. Daniel Osborn — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 12:01:15 +0000

I am a Pastor from India and I saw your site today.

I have been a Pastor for the last 6 months only and your talk was very useful to me.

May God bless you Pastor and your family.

Thanks. Praise the Lord.

Comment on Cannabis Confession and Construction Contemplation by Kenneth Smith

Kenneth Smith — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 11:45:57 +0000

Having the desire to smoke a joint or to drink a Bud is part of the “I want to fit in syndrome” so that we can relate to our students. It’s hard to explain something when we have know ideal except only what we read.
I can say “Been there, Done that” and not say that about the desire to do these things, but to actually doing them before the Grace of God took over in my life.
Students need to know how you cope with the life you are living (including some desires) and how God brings you through it. That is the foundation they will build on in their own life and some will even fall under the “Been there, Done that” and will have to do as Luke mentions about the builder, “digged deep” to lay their foundation. You just have to help shovel the dirt out of the way.
I know everything I just wrote seems a little confusing but if it does make a little sense then we both can say thank-you Lord!